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I have just indulged. . . guiltily indulged in an hour of pure emo-blogs from girls a few years my junior and a common trait in all of these?

1) LOVE LOVE LOVE

This is (I perfectly know) a stage where they discover love and in most cases, emulate the years of love education they got from TV dramas and movies where a simple boat trip can lead naturally to the Titanic-esque expectations. There is really no need for further proof when every single post (not even missing one, not even the 2 sentences long post!) gains a mention of their 'piggy', 'honey', 'lovey', well, creativity in this department is just limited to your own imagination. And your partner's level of tolerance (and yes, this is directed to me myself.) Well, of course there is the traditional 'lou gung' 'lou po' which is really pretty much everywhere. a Ctrl-F search would probably lead to 1889 hits on a single page. Woot!

Why the appeal? I guess - the excitement, curiosity and to a certain extent, naivety?

With the rapid feeding of new information far beyond our age (I still consider myself a minor :->), even the most skilled of ninjutsu among us cannot possibly evade! Kids are getting more precoccious and open to this thing they call 'love'. Well, if Student S can date Student D in school while two-timing Student G from another school while his Dad divorced Mum A and is pursuing Lady C while having an affair with Mistress V who is the wife of Mister O who harbours desire for Secretary H and goes clubbing everynight to score random chicks, surely me dating and devoting my life and soul to a single guy is alright - so thinks a fresh-minded American-series watching teen. Truth is, I think 'love' is over-rated. Sure it brings a whole new dimension of happiness and lessons in life, but not everything revolves around 'love love love', or just 'love'.

I can say this cause I have been there and with Auntie Lo approaching 22 soon (iyaaa!), lemme just let slip some of my take on this. It is perfectly alright to be in love provided (!) - you know what you are doing. You dun even need to know what love is - after all who knows, they're just the result of feelings which are then determined by a mix of chemicals in your brain, or maybe the sight of a really outta-the-world hunk. Excitement and curiosity - both fine. Just remember to not let the materialistic aspects and impulsive feelings lead to the losing of your own identity and dignity as an individual. Seriously, there is really more to life :-)

2) Rough-ins with parents

Rough patches are usually all over the place when it comes to the parents-children territory.

Parents: You dunno what you are doing. Listen to us!!
Children: You dun understand what I feel or do. Dun wanna talk to u!!
(Experience talks here. . . )

Like that, how to communicate? Sigh, but being Auntie Lo (in this post only!), once again, of course I have been there and done that. The same goes for Uncle Steve, Uncle Choo . . (not sure why I mentioned you guys here, guess I just wanted to close in the 'old ady' impression I gave in this post, sigh).

Parents, in truth, really do not understand you. But what do you expect? You are really two different individuals! Unless if your Dad is Peter Petrelli who can read your mind then you would have to please oh very please introduce me to him as soon as possible. But if it is Matt Parkman, then it is alrite, thank you very much. But then if they read your mind, you would scream , "No privacy!!" instead. Rather than understand, they KNOW you. They dare to be frank.

Children, in truth, are in most cases unsure of what they are doing. But again, what do you expect? Only a mere say 16 years in this complicated world filled with unnecessary things like deceit, temptations, conflicts, business law, finance, accounting, and. . . ok, it got a bit too personal towards the end. But the point remains! Communication is the key, ain't it. So what is the obstruction here - ego and pride, I would say.

Kids too egoistic to accept advices from the 'mummies' from the past generation and parents assumingly too prideful to see things from their kids' point of view. Just like how fast food chains flourished despite their bad image for health - convenience became the choice of all. Joy. Kids find it easier to blame it on their parents while parents find it easier to push it to the kids. Let the mutual-blaming fest begin - gosh.

This is old school but believe me. Your parents are really there to root for you, bringing you back from your lululala-land of getting the latest handphones without paying and home-cooked meal appearing for some reasons every single nite on the dining table - to the harsh reality you are bound to confront sooner or later. Why do you expect them to understand you when you are not even trying to understand them? Rough-ins and conflicts are normal cos you are all different as an individual. But blaming is not.

3) Materials

Pictures of handphones, laptops, jewelleries, etc. Check!

Extensively descriptive statements of each of them e.g. This is the latest model of Sony Ericsson with the newest function that even allows you to microwave like popcorn! Check!

Statements of the origin of the items e.g. Daddy dearest, the most beautiful Mummy (compare with section 2), Piggy, Lovey (cross check with Section 1). Check!

Confessions of extreme love for the items with choice of words like 'looooooooove', 'wahlau!', 'cuuuuute~~~~~****'. Check!

SIGH. I guess everyone falls for material one way or another. I am still a victim from time to time, but to be obsessed over it - a big no no. Especially for young chums like us (I am young again in this part~) who have no real financial capabilities yet. But since the original 'love' and 'care' is so intangible, materials often step in as the tangible form of 'love' and 'care'. Well, if everyone is happy, then wat can be bad about it ne?

We are fortunate folks, our generation. There really is nothing bad about being materialistic provided you have control over it and are grateful and appreciative. And sadly, most of us fail here. A relationship built on materials will only be depreciable and diminished in value as materials do over time.

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Well of course there are other traits as well. But those were the three main schools of observations from the emo blog community. As a disclaimer - I am not judging them. Everyone's got their own way of life. What was written were pure opinions and observations of mine. After all I am just an Auntie who is turning 22 soon who pretends to faint everyone her mum asks her for help and has a down to earth relationship and a slight obsession towards outta her reach things such as Teru and a bikini body :-)